Changing Negative Thoughts to Lose Weight
You think tens of thousands of thoughts each and every day. In fact, you talk to yourself more than you talk to anyone else. That makes you your most trusted advisor and confidant. Many of the one-on-one conversations you have with yourself in you mind you would never share with anyone else.
Many times we keep this part of ourselves hidden because we’re afraid of what others might think if we exposed our real and true selves. See, most of us are afraid to admit that we are filled with self doubt, worries, sadness, guilt, hurts and disappointments. Even though everyone else in the world is too.
What we don’t realize is that all of the things that have happened to us are separate from us. Those things are not the “real you” at all. They mean NOTHING about who you are or what you are capable of. Unfortunately, we make the various situations and events in our lives *mean* something, as if they reflect on the quality of our character. This is a false you that your ego and belief systems have constructed. These negative and limiting beliefs have been erroneously constructed by you, and accepted by you as truth.
But where did you get these false ideas about yourself? Where did they come from?
Mostly, they came from caregivers, people who were important to us, or people with power or control over us; parents and family members, teachers, bosses, co-workers, and friends. They may have planted these negative seeds in the fertile soil of our minds by saying something like “you have such a pretty face” and you have cultivated those comments with every slight you’ve heard (and even made up a few) to the point that they have become your truth.
Only you know who you truly are and what’s in your heart, so why are you allowing someone else’s (important) words help you build the prison in which you contain yourself?
You were born into this world without the burdens of negative beliefs. You entered this world as a beautiful bundle of joy filled with unlimited potential and possibilities. You believed you were special, important, and significant.
UNDERSTAND NOW THAT YOU HAVE NOT CHANGED. You still are and will continue to be a beautiful bundle of joy with unlimited potential and possibilities.
The only difference between that younger version of you and the you of now is what you give your attention to. Let me ask you a question. If you stopped all your negative talk today, including phrases like;
- I’m too fat
- Why would anyone want to love me
- I will never be thin
- I always fail
(And the list goes on and on… ) How would you feel ? Do you think that you would instantly feel emotionally lighter? Do you think that you might feel happier? Do you think that you would feel brighter, more positive, and more confident?
If you were to take it one step further and modify your inner chatter by only speaking positively to and about yourself, how would your life change? If you have a hard time conceptualizing it, think about it like this.
When you think of all the times people said mean things to you and about – what if those things had never been said? What if you’d never heard them? Better still – what is they had said something awesome about you? How would your life be different?
To start this process, take some time and focus on what you like about yourself. Once you begin looking for the positive things within you, you’ll train your brain to look for more and more awesomeness. Before long, you will be surprised to realize that your magnificence has always been there – it never left you. You have never been anything other than awesome. Special.
You can prime your mind to look for the positive by asking yourself these questions:
- What am I good at?
- Who has benefited by me being in the world?
- Who am I, what is in my heart that only I know?
- What do I like about my body?
Your goal is to feel good now. If you only observe what you feel is positive about you, you will feel good, you will be happy. Decide right here and right now how you want to feel. Decide that you will always look for the good within you and appreciate that goodness.
So what does all of this have to do with mastering your emotional eating and/or losing weight? Everything!!!
Your emotional state is the control valve that determines what you draw into your experience.
How you talk to yourself creates your beliefs and programs your subconscious.
So what do you want your beliefs and subconscious programming to be based on? False beliefs and negative thinking?
Or do you want your beliefs to be based on the truth?
Begin today to love and nurture yourself. Be kind to yourself. Allow joy. Relocate the source of the playfulness and enthusiasm that you had as a child and integrate it into your everyday life. Celebrate each and every success – no matter how small. Love and appreciate yourself every time you get a chance.
Do this each and every day and watch your unwanted weight begin to resolve and dissolve.